Mary Todd LincolnMary Todd Lincoln, wife of America's greatest president, Abraham Lincoln, was the most active political spouse between Dolley Madison (her distant relative by marriage) and Eleanor Roosevelt. These first ladies blurred the traditional lines between social and political affairs for presidential spouses.
Mary Todd was a Southern belle from one of the most eminent families in Lexington, Kentucky, “the Athens of the West.” Henry Clay was a family friend and Mary Todd's maternal uncles were U.S. senators from Kentucky and Louisiana. She was unusually well educated for a female of her era. She learned to act in school, loved the opera, and was fluent in French. Her older sister married a lawyer who was an aspiring Illinois politician, the circumstance that brought the 21-year-old Mary Todd to the state where her first cousin was lawyer partner to Abraham Lincoln.
Superficially, the match between Lincoln and Mary Todd seemed incongruous. From a social standpoint, she married down to a man nearly a decade older, more than a foot taller, and lacking social status and graces. Yet their mutual Kentucky origins, Whig partisanship, appreciation of literature, and, most important, their love and ambition for a political life brought them together. After a broken engagement, they finally married on November 4, 1842, and four sons were born over the next decade (Robert Todd, 1843; Edward Baker, 1846; William Wallace, 1850; and Thomas “Tad,” 1853). Mary reared her sons under conditions much harsher than any she had ever experienced in her upbringing and still refined her spouse's outward appearance and encouraged his political ventures with one exception. She blocked his acceptance of the governorship of Oregon, which might have ended his national political advancement.
Abraham had a Republican platform for the nation; Mary Todd had a corresponding agenda for herself and the presidential mansion. She represents the transition from Dolley Madison's Washington social emphasis to Eleanor Roosevelt's national political activism. At a time when most political wives were invisible, Mary Todd Lincoln was as assertive as her spouse when she arrived at the presidential mansion. She embarked on a major redecoration and refurbishment with the goal of transforming it into a national and international symbol of the American presidency; similarly, Abraham continued completion of the dome of the Capitol during the Civil War as a symbol of belief in the continuation of the Union. Mary overspent her project, repeating Abraham's action while pursuing his mission of developing Illinois during his service as a state legislator in Springfield. Running the presidential mansion was Mary's domain, politicians soon discovered. She hosted elegant parties there, as well as receptions, to bolster the national spirit. Again tracking her husband's behavior, Mary organized the first dinner of the new administration to honor the diplomatic corps, thereby putting the secretary of state in his place, just as the president had done to this one-time presidential competitor. Mary Todd, ever the social-conscious hostess, created a new salon boasting dominant political and literary figures that she invited to the executive mansion. The Marine band played “The Mary Lincoln Polka” and a foreign correspondent for the first time referred to the president's wife as first lady.
Her efforts to influence political patronage yielded mixed results but did not induce her to modify her approach. Even when the capital was under a military threat, Mary Todd insisted on remaining there with the president. She encouraged his afternoon carriage rides and attendance of the theater as means of relaxation from his presidential burdens. With characteristic energy, she visited military hospitals and even reviewed Union troops on occasion. Her personal relationship with African Americans exceeded her husband's. Elizabeth Keckley, her dressmaker, for example, was a close friend while she remained in Washington, D.C. Both raised funds for the Contraband Relief Association.
Unfortunately, her energetic agenda to prove her right to preside in the nation's capital even though she had lived on the frontier and had Confederate relatives was undermined by the emotional toll extracted by the deaths of her spouse and all but one son. High-strung and given to mood swings, Mary Todd reached her breaking point and turned to spiritualism and engaged in bizarre behavior. In 1875 her oldest son committed her to an asylum for a short confinement. That episode continues to influence scholars who do not balance that dramatic portion of her life against her multiple contributions to the 16th presidency.