Dolley Madison (1768–1848)Dolley Madison, perhaps more than any other first lady, helped to define the role of the president's spouse, providing social occasions for members of opposing political parties so they could come together and amicably socialize, network, and negotiate. Moreover, her bravery and patriotism during a time of war later earned her a reputation as one of America's most courageous first ladies.
Born Dorothea Payne in North Carolina and raised on a plantation near Ashland, Virginia, she was the oldest daughter of nine children. Her Quaker parents doted on her and gave her the nickname “Dolley.” In 1790, she married John Todd Jr., a young, Quaker lawyer, who died three years later while caring for victims of a Philadelphia yellow fever epidemic. Dolley and her sons, a two-year-old and a newborn, also became ill. She and her older son survived, but the infant died.
In 1794, after a fourteen-month courtship, she married Virginia congressman James Madison. The Quakers disowned her because she married outside her faith. This meant that she was free from their restrictions and could attend social occasions that Quakers frowned upon, such as balls and receptions.
In 1801, President Thomas Jefferson appointed Madison as his secretary of state. Since both Jefferson and his vice president, Aaron Burr, were widowers, Dolley, as the wife of the highest-ranking Cabinet official, hosted presidential dinners and receptions. She carried out her duties with warmth, wit, and charm, characteristics that would continue after her husband was elected president in 1808. During the Madison presidency, Dolley produced a social whirlwind at the White House. The Executive Mansion became a nearly endless succession of dinner parties, lawn parties, luncheons, and dances. While she was always dressed in the most glamorous fashions of the day, she was known for having the talent to inject in the most formal occasion the informal gaiety of a country dance or a small tea party that allowed her guests, often highly partisan opponents, to socialize and find common ground.
She became a heroine during the War of 1812. In August 1814, with her husband away at the front and British troops fast approaching the White House, she managed to save the famous Gilbert Stuart portrait of George Washington (though some believe it was her personal slave who saved the portrait) as well as other valuables before fleeing for safety in Virginia. The British burned the Executive Mansion, and it would not be fully restored until 1817 during James Monroe's presidency. After the British retreat, the Madisons moved to another Washington residence, the Octagon House. There, Dolley hosted several galas to celebrate the American victory over the British in 1815.
In 1817, after Madison's second term, the couple retired to his Virginia estate at Montpelier. James Madison died in 1836, and a year later, Dolley returned to Washington, where she lived for a time until Congress purchased her husband's papers in dire poverty. With funds from Congress, she was able to resume her former role as the capital's most popular hostess. She died in Washington of a stroke at the age of eighty-one.