Resources
- Conflict in RelationshipsDisagreements are a fact of life in many interpersonal relationships (e.g., marital, friendships, workplace). It’s hard to have a meaningful association with another and not have opposing viewpoints or opinions, at least occasionally. How the individuals express their dissents is important in assessing the impact of the conflict.
- The Science of Ending ConflictWar has long been the subject of history, philosophy, and poetry. Now, science may be revealing the hard truth about why men fight—and what could make them stop.
Research & Reference
- Interpersonal Conflict: Credo ReferenceA Credo Reference landing page on interpersonal conflict. This page includes links to reference works, journal articles, and a mind map.
Interpersonal Conflict
We are all aware that conflict exists between individuals or distinct social groups that see each other as "different." Conflict is part of life, and groups of people are always going to disagree on some issues. But emotional and social intelligence skills can help us find common ground, address, and even solve many of our personal and community issues.
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Perspectives
5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
A practical guide to spotting, avoiding, and outsmarting people with high-conflict personality disorders, from an expert in conflict management and mediation. Some difficult people aren't just hard to deal with-they're dangerous. Do you know someone whose moods swing wildly? Do they act unreasonably suspicious or antagonistic? Do they blame others for their own problems? When a high-conflict person has one of five common personality disorders-borderline, narcissistic, paranoid, antisocial, or histrionic-they can lash out in risky extremes of emotion and aggression. And once an HCP decides to target you, they're hard to shake. But there are ways to protect yourself. Using empathy-driven conflict management techniques, Bill Eddy, a lawyer and therapist with extensive mediation experience, will teach you to- - Spot warning signs of the five high-conflict personalities in others and in yourself. - Manage relationships with HCPs at work and in your private life. - Safely avoid or end dangerous and stressful interactions with HCPs. Filled with expert advice and real-life anecdotes, 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life is an essential guide to helping you escape negative relationships, build healthy connections, and safeguard your reputation and personal life in the process. And if you have a high-conflict personality, this book will help you help yourself.
Taking Charge of Anger
If anger is starting to rule your life, or someone else has urged you to "get a grip--or else," anger expert Dr. Robert Nay has a six-step plan that can help you regain control, even in the most stressful, hot-button situations. This proven program shows you how to stand up for yourself without losing your temper. Put a lid on destructive anger once and for all with fine-tuned strategies that help you: *Figure out which of the five "faces of anger" are a problem for you, from passive-aggression to all-out rage. *Recognize the early warning signs of anger in your physical sensations and thoughts. *Identify and change unrealistic expectations you have for yourself and other people. *Communicate effectively when differences arise--with your spouse, family members, colleagues, or others. *Practice anger-management skills alone and in public until they're second nature. For anyone who needs help with anger, Dr. Nay's program is effective, easy to learn, and--unlike other methods--brings about lasting change. See also Dr. Nay's Anger Management Workbook: Use the STOP Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive Behavior, which helps you build core anger management skills using interactive exercises, and Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship: How to Break the Cycle of Arguments, Put-Downs, and Stony Silences.
Behaving Badly
Most of us spend our lives craving positive, healthy connections with others, but relationships are often the source of many of life's greatest frustrations. Behaving Badly takes a uniquely honest look at the dark side of relating with others. How can the loved one who raises your spirits one day be an insensitive jerk the next? Why is it that the closer people become, the greater the likelihood that they will offend, embarrass, annoy, and hurt one another? Some of the most commonly experienced aversive phenomenon are explored in this book, including teasing, swearing, gossiping, and betrayal. These aversive behaviors have profound implications for the process of social interaction, and this book fills a gap by gathering the most interesting research on this oft-overlooked area of study. Rich in research and vivid examples, the chapters of this volume explore these behaviors through the eyes of both victims and perpetrators, often revealing the hidden benefits of aversive behavior. Social psychologists, clinicians, therapists, and anyone interested in those aggravating elements of relationships should read this book.
3 ways to resolve a conflict
Anybody can help resolve a conflict, says project manager Dorothy Walker. With three simple steps, she shares how you can use positive energy to solve conflicts between friends, coworkers, strangers, kids and beyond.
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