Resources
- Effective Parenting: DisciplineThink of discipline as a way to guide and teach your child about positive ways to behave. A parenting style that works well is one that uses discipline proactively. The goal is to use techniques that encourage your child's sense of responsibility, nurture self-esteem, and strengthen your relationship with your child. This may involve setting limits, explaining why a certain behavior is wrong and what can be done instead, discussing values, and using distraction, time-out, and natural and logical consequences.
- Using Discipline and ConsequencesDid you know that what you do right after any of your child’s behavior makes a difference? This may be why your child has good behavior some days and not others. Learning how to use discipline and consequences can help you have more good days with your child. It can also help you get behaviors you like to happen more often.
- What is Positive Discipline?Recent research tells us that children are hardwired from birth to connect with others, and that children who feel a sense of connection to their community, family, and school are less likely to misbehave.
- Why Parenting With Discipline Raises More Resilient ChildrenThe research is pretty clear. So what kind of parent are you?
Research & Reference
- Child Discipline: Credo ReferenceA Credo Reference landing page on child discipline. This page includes links to reference works, journal articles, and a mind map.
- Parental Discipline: ScienceDirectA ScienceDirect landing page on parental discipline.
Discipline
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The most effective discipline is not punishment, but a form of teaching—and that requires an understanding of how a child learns. This video examines learning capacity at critical stages of development, presenting the best strategies for setting limits. (22 minutes)
Source: Films on Demand
Perspectives
Ignore It!
This book teaches frustrated, stressed-out parents that selectively ignoring certain behaviors can actually inspire positive changes in their kids. Catherine Pearlman has some of the best parenting advice you will ever receive- Ignore your kids. Before you shake your head and walk away . . . ponder this for a moment. When it comes to disciplining our children, many of us find ourselves sounding like broken records issuing reprimands that seem to fall on deaf ears. We want to teach our children how to behave well, but somehow the more we tell them what's wrong with their behavior, the more inclined they are to continue it. In this revolutionary parenting book, Dr. Pearlman shows parents that by "selectively ignoring" your kids' misbehavior, you allow your children the space they need to actually learn from their mistakes. Dr. Pearlman shows parents that by ignoring their children's indiscretions they are giving them the opportunity to absorb the real-life consequences of their negative behavior. Children's self-esteem increases and parental satisfaction hits new heights. Using proven strategies supported by research, this book shows parents how to- - Ignore children when they are engaging in a power struggle - Ignore children instead of providing negative attention - Use effective behavior modification techniques to diminish and often eliminate problem behaviors Ignore It! helps parents improve their kids' behavior and put the joy back in parenting.
Parenting the Strong-Willed Child: the Clinically Proven Five-Week Program for Parents of Two- to Six-Year-Olds, Third Edition
A clinically proven, five-week program for improving your child's behavior Rex Forehand, Ph.D. and Nicholas Long Ph.D. have helped thousands of parents achieve discipline using positive reinforcement, without yelling or harming the child's self-esteem. Their clinically proven, five-week program gives you the tools you need to successfully manage your child's behavior, giving specific factors that cause or contribute to disruptive behavior; ways to develop a more positive atmosphere in your family and home; and strategies for managing specific behavior problems. The completely revised and updated edition includes: new information, based on research, about child temperament; new chapter on the hot topic of play as a means of strengthening parent-child relationship; new section on collaborative disciplining with preschool teachers; expanded section about depression and stress linked to parenting; new research findings about ADHD and its treatment. Uncover the specific factors that contribute to your child's disruptive behavior. Identify with real-life parent testimonials and discover strategies for managing specific behavior problems. Authors Rex Forehand, Ph.D., and Nicholas Long, Ph.D., are experts in the field of child psychology. New research highlights the scientific foundation behind the program. Topics include: Understanding Your Strong-Willed Child's Behavior; Strong-Willed Behavior and How It All Begins; Why Is My Child Becoming Even More Strong-Willed?; It Takes More than Just Good Parenting; Does My Child Have ADHD?; Addressing Strong-Willed Behavior: A Five-Week Program; Does My Child's Behavior Really Need to Change?; Week 1: Attending; Week 2: Rewarding; Week 3: Ignoring; Week 4: Giving Directions; Week 5: Using Time-Outs; Integrating Your Parenting Skills; Creating a Positive Climate for Behavior Change; Creating a More Positive Home; Improving Your Communication Skills; Developing More Patience; Building Positive Self-Esteem; Helping Your Child Solve Problems with Peers; Solving Some Common Behavior Problems: Additional Recommendations; Specific Problem Behaviors
Triggers
Do you believe your struggle with anger stems from the wrong behavior you see displayed in your children? The knee-jerk reactions and blow-ups you're facing are often a result of a bigger set of "triggers." Some of these are external, like a child's disobedience, backtalk, or selective hearing, while others are internal, like an overflowing schedule, sleep-deprivation, or perhaps your own painful experiences from childhood. Triggers: Exchanging Parent's Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses examines common parenting issues that cause us to explode inappropriately at our children. Moving beyond simple parenting tips on how to change your child's behavior, authors Amber Lia and Wendy Speake offer biblical insight and practical tools to equip and encourage you on the journey away from anger-filled reactions toward gentle, biblical responses.
Have a New Kid by Friday
Have a New Kid by Friday shows parents how to reverse negative behavior in their children--fast. Focusing on changing a child's attitude, behavior, and character, it contains chapters for each day of the week.
A Better Childhood
A Better Childhood shows parents a way to make the growing-up years a happy and successful time. Happy and secure children see the importance of doing what parents teach them. When parents establish a caring and affectionate relationship, connectedness, with their children, both value this relationship and feel concern about the happiness of each other. Children try to do what parents ask and parents seek to meet the needs and desires of their children. Research has shown that happy children learn more efficiently than unhappy children. Then why first make children unhappy when they are to learn a certain kind of behavior? When connectedness becomes a factor in families' daily lives disciplinary measures such as rules, limits, or punishment become unnecessary.
Using Discipline and Consequences
Learn ways to use consequences and discipline to improve your child's behavior.
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bsCMWwyaWTk